One of the most painful episodes in your life will definitely be
losing one of your loved ones. The circumstance doesn't matter. The
level of pain is almost the same. There will be times when you're
struggling to come to terms with it. A lot of people fall into deep
loneliness or depression. In fact, some would also choose to end their
lives.
Grief is a very powerful emotion, which can be a positive or a
negative one depending on how you handle it. When it's a good grief,
it means you're mourning for the loss but you've already reached a
level of acceptance. It becomes something dangerous if it turns out to
be a negative emotion for you.
If you are finding it quite hard to deal with grief and loss, the
following tips may be helpful to you:
1. Start the process of acceptance. There are actually different
stages of grief. You may start from denial to desperation and
eventually into acceptance. It's recommended that you are very aware
of this, so you know what level you are in. The goal is to get into
the acceptance part as fast as possible, so you can completely move on
with your life.
2. Learn to grieve with others. Now is the best time to share your
grief with others, such as the rest of the family members or friends.
You will know that you are definitely not alone with what you're going
through. Sometimes you can draw strength and inspiration from the ones
who have already learned to accept the fate. They can help you get to
that point too.
3. Share good memories. Many people tend to not talk about the
deceased for fear that sharing will only bring back the sad memories.
That's actually fine, but you know sometimes you good memories can
also lighten up the mood. Besides, surely the dead wants you to
remember them when they are at their best. Honor their memory and life
by sharing any pleasant memories you have with him/her.
4. Join support groups. There are plenty of grief support groups you
can join. Some of them have already formed chapters in your area. If
you go to the Internet, there are message boards and websites you can
check out. They usually have professional counselors who can help you
understand the grief you're feeling, as well as teach you some methods
on how to cope with the pain of losing.
5. Use subliminal messages. How can subliminal messages help you with
your grief? These types of messages have the ability to change your
perspective on things, even your negative thought patterns. Subliminal
messages get into your subconscious, so it's something you have no
full control. However, you can tap them if you wish to change
something negative to positive.
Some of the subliminal messages or affirmations you can use during
grief are the following:
I am taking care of myself.
I place a high value in my life.
I accept life's natural process called death.
I acknowledge the pain, but I won't let it control me.
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